Okay, I did not say don’t complain, but I did say complain very little.
Why do people think that if you complain something is terribly wrong with you?
Yes, I always have to be different!
This is where I think that complaining can be valuable:
If you are not vocal about things you don’t like, how will get support from those around you?
Have you heard the old saying, “A closed mouth won’t get fed?”
Complainers acting together can make things happen.
About a year ago I became a member of Change.org.
I like the idea of like-minded people finding one another coming together making things happen instead of just complaining and talking about, don’t you?
I am not talking about complainers who are hurting others nor social demonstrators who publicly demonstrate strong objection to wrongdoing.
I will give you an example. We will use one of my favorite discussions which I love helping them and their employees. We will speak on Saint Louis Metro Ride.
Who do you honestly believe would make the better idea motivators to the CEO’s of Metro and who do you think they would listen to?
I always have and will always believe it is us, the riders! But, how will they know what we want or even need if we don’t speak up?
I hear some complaining on the bus and no pun intended, lots of men more than others stating, “They are not going to listen to us!”
I tell them in return, “You see all those benches and protection from the rain up and down West Florissant Avenue?”
“Well, I wrote and fought for those seats to be put there and I am one voice,” but I showed them how passionate that this should be something that was needed essentially to become real in our community and we now have seats at every bus stop I requested!
I try to not act like I know everything but I do try and use what they said would not be done and then show how I did and made it happen by writing and becoming a concerned passenger of the community who was willing to speak up like I meant I wanted it to happen for not only me, but for others in the community for now and for after I am gone!
I know myself I feel better when I complain and you would be so surprised to hear others then speak up. It sort of gives others the courage to say what they had been wanting to say but never would for fear of what others would think of them maybe, but sense you did do the complaining, they now speak up too! 😉 lol
All I am saying that it urks the hell out of me when people make speeches and the first thing that comes out of people’s mouths is how much this person never complained.
Well, if we never complain how will we know if others feel the same way we feel and how will we ever have room for improvement if we don’t speak up to make things change for the better for all people?!
If you don’t say nothing you get exactly that NOTHING!
Doesn’t somebody have to be the leader who is brave enough to say something and doesn’t that person have to complain to the people to hear who else is with you?
Now, I am not saying that one voice will not be heard but we need to inspire others and watch and see what it does for the universe and most importantly for self!
When you speak up and out to the universe it gives them permission to shine also is all I am saying and then we can not only complain but make things happen too!
I don’t care what people say or think about me to be perfectly honest.
First, I am not perfect and second, I don’t want to be!
Nobody but God is perfect anyway!
I want to learn all that I can learn even if sometimes gets under some people’s nerve.
But so far, so good! 😉
Now here is my theory of complaining: It helps me to stay in balance and of course, we must pick our own battles, but speaking out and up has it reasonable limits! You will go crazy if you don’t say something some of the time. There is both psychological and physical limit to how much we hold inside. If people consider you to be negative and even reject us for speaking up, then it is their loss. Anyway never complaining seems to me to be a very boring life. 😉 Have you forgotten how to express yourself? When you express how you feel isn’t that complaining? When you go to see a psychologist, isn’t that complaining? If complaining is a bad thing then I am so happy that I am not normal and self-expression never hurt anybody last I checked and that goes for occasionally complaining.
When you express how you feel isn’t that complaining? When you go to see a psychologist, isn’t that complaining? If complaining is a bad thing then I am so happy that I am not normal and self-expression never hurt anybody last I checked and that goes for occasionally complaining.
If complaining is a bad thing then I am so happy that I am not normal and self-expression never hurt anybody last I checked and that goes for occasional complaining.
In conclusion, couldn’t complaining be considered both self-respect and sanity?
Stop trying to be so perfect and join the complaining generation who are going to make things happen by being different and don’t care who likes them!
Mary Engelbreit Art